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CBT vs. DBT: Understanding the Differences, Benefits, and How They Help with Depression

What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)?

CBT is a type of therapy that focuses on the way our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are connected. It helps people recognize negative thinking patterns and replace them with more helpful and realistic thoughts.

How Does CBT Work?

CBT follows a structured approach where a therapist helps a person:

  1. Identify Negative Thoughts – People struggling with depression or anxiety often have automatic negative thoughts (e.g., “I’m a failure,” “Nothing will ever get better”). These thoughts can make them feel worse.
  2. Challenge These Thoughts – A therapist helps examine whether these thoughts are based on facts or assumptions.
  3. Replace Negative Thoughts with Healthier Ones – Once a person understands that their thoughts aren’t always accurate, they can learn to change them. Instead of thinking, “I’m a failure,” they might reframe it to, “I made a mistake, but that doesn’t mean I’m a failure.”
  4. Change Behavior to Improve Mood – Depression often makes people withdraw from activities they once enjoyed. CBT encourages small, achievable actions that can help improve mood over time.

What is CBT Used For?

CBT is one of the most widely used and researched types of therapy. It is highly effective for treating:

  • Depression – Helps people break out of negative thinking loops and take small steps to improve their mood.
  • Anxiety Disorders – Teaches people how to manage worry, panic attacks, and social anxiety by shifting unhelpful thinking patterns.
  • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) – Helps individuals face fears and resist compulsive behaviors.
  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) – Guides people in processing traumatic memories in a way that reduces emotional distress.
  • Phobias – Uses gradual exposure techniques to help people overcome irrational fears.
  • Eating Disorders – Helps people challenge negative beliefs about food, body image, and self-worth.

Key Benefits of CBT

  • Structured and Goal-Oriented – CBT follows a plan with clear steps to help people improve their mental health.
  • Short-Term – Unlike traditional therapy, which can last for years, CBT often lasts for 12–20 sessions.
  • Evidence-Based – Decades of research have proven its effectiveness for a wide range of mental health issues.
  • Homework and Practice – CBT involves practicing skills outside of therapy sessions to make lasting changes.

What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)?

DBT is a specialized form of CBT designed to help people who struggle with intense emotions and self-destructive behaviors. It was originally developed to treat people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but it has since been adapted for other conditions.

How Does DBT Work?

DBT helps people balance two important ideas:

  1. Acceptance – Learning to accept emotions and experiences without judgment.
  2. Change – Learning skills to regulate emotions, improve relationships, and reduce harmful behaviors.

Key Skills Taught in DBT

DBT teaches four main skills that help people manage their emotions and behaviors:

1. Mindfulness (Staying Present in the Moment)

Many mental health struggles involve dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Mindfulness teaches people to focus on the present, accept their thoughts and feelings without judgment, and respond calmly instead of reacting impulsively.

2. Distress Tolerance (Coping with Intense Emotions Without Making Things Worse)

This skill helps people deal with emotional pain in healthy ways. Instead of turning to self-harm, drugs, or reckless behavior, DBT teaches techniques like deep breathing, distraction, and self-soothing activities (e.g., listening to music, taking a warm bath).

3. Emotion Regulation (Managing Strong Feelings)

People with intense emotions may feel like their mood swings are uncontrollable. DBT teaches how to:

  • Identify and label emotions
  • Reduce emotional sensitivity
  • Use coping strategies to prevent emotions from overwhelming them

4. Interpersonal Effectiveness (Improving Communication and Relationships)

DBT helps people build healthier relationships by teaching them how to:

  • Ask for what they need in a respectful way
  • Set boundaries without feeling guilty
  • Handle conflicts without escalating them

What is DBT Used For?

DBT is especially helpful for people who experience extreme emotions and difficulty controlling them. It is commonly used to treat:

  • Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) – Helps with emotional instability, self-harm, and difficulty maintaining relationships.
  • Chronic Suicidal Thoughts & Self-Harm – Teaches coping strategies to prevent self-destructive behaviors.
  • Substance Use Disorders – Helps people manage cravings and emotional triggers that lead to addiction.
  • Eating Disorders – Supports emotional regulation and healthier coping mechanisms for people struggling with binge eating or restriction.
  • Severe Mood Disorders – Can be helpful for depression and anxiety, especially when emotional regulation is a challenge.

Key Benefits of DBT

  • Comprehensive Approach – DBT combines individual therapy, group skills training, and phone coaching to support individuals outside of sessions.
  • Focuses on Emotional Stability – Teaches practical skills to manage overwhelming emotions.
  • Balances Acceptance and Change – Helps people accept themselves while also working toward personal growth.
  • Long-Term Benefits – The coping skills learned in DBT can be applied throughout life.

CBT vs. DBT: What’s the Difference?

Feature CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
Main Focus Changing negative thoughts to improve emotions and behaviors. Managing intense emotions and improving relationships.
Best For Depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, phobias, eating disorders. BPD, self-harm, extreme mood swings, substance use, eating disorders.
Treatment Structure Short-term, structured, goal-oriented. Long-term, includes individual therapy, group skills training, and phone coaching.
Skills Taught Cognitive restructuring (changing thoughts), problem-solving. Mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness.
Approach to Emotions Identifies and challenges negative thoughts that cause distress. Accepts emotions while teaching skills to manage them.

How Do CBT and DBT Help with Depression?

CBT for Depression

CBT is one of the most effective treatments for depression because it directly targets negative thinking patterns that keep people feeling stuck. Depression often makes people:

  • Feel hopeless about the future.
  • Withdraw from activities and isolate themselves.
  • Blame themselves for things that aren’t their fault.
  • Struggle to find motivation to do anything.

CBT helps by:
✔ Teaching people to recognize and challenge negative thoughts.
✔ Encouraging small, manageable actions to increase motivation and positive feelings.
✔ Helping break the cycle of avoidance and inactivity.

DBT for Depression

DBT is particularly useful for people whose depression is linked to emotional instability or intense mood swings. If someone:

  • Feels emotions very strongly and has trouble controlling them.
  • Gets overwhelmed by feelings of anger, sadness, or frustration.
  • Has self-harming thoughts or suicidal feelings.
  • Struggles with relationships due to mood instability.

DBT helps by:
✔ Teaching skills to regulate emotions and avoid extreme reactions.
✔ Providing tools to cope with distress without self-harm.
✔ Helping improve relationships and communication.

Which Therapy Should You Choose?

  • If you struggle with negative thinking, depression, or anxiety, CBT is usually the best choice.
  • If you experience intense emotions, self-harm, or difficulty controlling reactions, DBT may be more effective.
  • Many therapists use a combination of both approaches depending on an individual’s needs.
  • You can learn both!

If you’re unsure, a mental health professional can help guide you to the best approach for your situation.

Here are sources that provide information on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), their differences, benefits, and applications in treating depression:

  1. Here to Help – Explains the key differences between CBT and DBT, focusing on validation and relationships in DBT. It highlights how DBT emphasizes acceptance of experiences and the importance of the therapeutic relationship.
    https://www.heretohelp.bc.ca/q-and-a/whats-the-difference-between-cbt-and-dbt
  2. SBTreatment.com – Discusses how CBT helps change problematic thinking, making it effective for conditions like depression and anxiety, while DBT focuses on emotional regulation and is beneficial for disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and eating disorders.
    https://sbtreatment.com/dialectical-behavioral-therapy/dbt-vs-cbt/
  3. Verywell Health – Provides an overview of both therapies, noting that CBT is more established while DBT is newer and being studied for its effectiveness in various applications.
    https://www.verywellhealth.com/dialectical-behavior-therapy-vs-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-uses-benefits-side-effects-and-more-5323767
  4. Palo Alto University – Highlights CBT’s effectiveness in treating depression, anxiety, PTSD, OCD, phobias, and panic disorder. It also notes that DBT, originally developed for BPD, is useful for eating disorders, substance-use disorders, and self-harm behaviors.
    https://concept.paloaltou.edu/resources/business-of-practice-blog/cbt-dbt
  5. Psych Central – Compares CBT and DBT by explaining that CBT focuses on changing thought patterns and behavior, whereas DBT emphasizes how individuals interact with the world, themselves, and others.
    https://psychcentral.com/lib/whats-the-difference-between-cbt-and-dbt
  6. Choosing Therapy – Discusses philosophical differences, stating that CBT is focused on the present, while DBT processes past trauma to facilitate healing. It also notes that DBT encourages acceptance, whereas CBT primarily seeks to change maladaptive thinking patterns.
    https://www.choosingtherapy.com/dbt-vs-cbt/
  7. Simply Psychology – Provides an overview of the key differences between CBT and DBT, including their target populations, philosophical foundations, and treatment approaches.
    https://www.simplypsychology.org/whats-the-difference-between-cbt-and-dbt.html
  8. Hillside Atlanta – Explains how CBT helps clients identify and change problematic ways of thinking and behaving, while DBT helps clients regulate extreme emotions to improve relationships through validation and behavior change.
    https://hside.org/dbt-vs-cbt/
  9. First Session – Provides success rates for CBT and DBT, noting that both therapies have an overall success rate of 50-60% in treating various mental health conditions.
    https://www.firstsession.com/resources/cbt-vs-dbt-understanding-the-differences-and-benefits
  10. Health.com – Discusses how DBT focuses on emotional regulation, acceptance, and coping strategies, while CBT primarily aims to identify and change negative thought patterns.
    https://www.health.com/dbt-vs-cbt-8694023

 

Depressed Anonymous

Depression and OCD: A Guide to Decision Paralysis

Preamble

This piece is for Depression Anonymous members and allies who notice that decisions get sticky during a depressive dip. I do not have OCD. Many readers also will not have a diagnosis. Executive function challenges can come from ADHD, and depression or anxiety can make those challenges worse. Seeking certainty and chasing a “just right” feeling can appear without an OCD diagnosis. When depression and OCD do co-occur, studies link the combination to more daily burden and higher risk. Everything here is written in plain language and supported by the sources below.

This article is not medical advice. If you have access to care, bring these ideas to a therapist or a prescriber, especially if harmful thoughts, contamination concerns with medical risk, or trauma memories are active. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 in the United States, or use local emergency services.

What follows is a simple map of the decision loop, why it happens, and a gentle plan that works at low energy. I will define clinical terms as they appear. I will describe ERP, Exposure and Response Prevention, which is a first line psychotherapy for OCD. I will also describe SSRIs, a common class of antidepressants that can help depression and, at higher dose ranges and longer trials, can help OCD. The source list gives full details.

Sources for Preamble

  1. International OCD Foundation. 2024. “Exposure and Response Prevention, ERP.” https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/treatment/erp/
  2. Sharma, E., and Math, S. B. 2021. “Comorbidities in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Across the Lifespan.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8631971/

Section 1 — When mood drops, choices freeze

During depressive episodes, everyday choices can feel heavier. Getting started takes more effort. Switching between tasks feels clumsy. Finishing takes more fuel than you have on hand. Under that pressure, many of us raise the bar for action. We wait to feel more certain. We wait for a choice to feel right. We add one more round of checking. Relief is brief, doubt returns, and the loop tightens.

ADHD can make getting started, ordering steps, and holding details in mind harder. Depression can lower energy and narrow the sense of reward. Anxiety can heighten threat detection. Together, these make uncertainty feel riskier than it is, so we check more and delay more.

Two ideas help name what is happening. Intolerance of uncertainty means disliking action without guarantees. Not just right experiences are the “this does not feel acceptable yet” sensations that push more checking. In OCD, these processes can drive compulsions. Without an OCD diagnosis, they can still feed procrastination and perfectionism, especially during a depressive dip. Research also shows that depression commonly co-occurs with OCD, and that the combination links to greater daily burden and higher suicide risk. This is why clear language and practical tools matter. Next, I will map the decision loop in plain language, then offer a low energy plan for reversible, low risk choices, followed by short explainers on ERP and SSRIs.

Sources for Section 1

  1. Knowles, K. A., et al. 2023. “Intolerance of Uncertainty as a Cognitive Vulnerability for OCD, Review.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39431164/
  2. Coles, M. E., et al. 2003. “‘Not-Just-Right’ Experiences, Perfectionism, OCD, and Anxiety.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12732376/
  3. Pushkarskaya, H., et al. 2015. “Decision-Making Under Uncertainty in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4562025/
  4. Sharma, E., and Math, S. B. 2021. “Comorbidities in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Across the Lifespan.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8631971/

Section 2 — Mapping the decision loop in plain language

This section describes a common decision-paralysis loop observed during depressive episodes, and in people with ADHD or anxiety, and in obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is descriptive, not diagnostic. Clinical OCD involves obsessions, intrusive, unwanted thoughts or images, and compulsions, repetitive behaviors or mental acts, that are time-consuming or cause impairment.

1) Trigger
A decision includes uncertainty. Examples include choosing a time, sending a message, or selecting an everyday item. The presence of uncertainty is the essential ingredient.

2) Appraisal
Possible costs are overweighted, likely benefits are underweighted. Two features often drive this shift. Intolerance of uncertainty means a strong dislike of acting without guarantees. Not-just-right experiences are uncomfortable “this is not acceptable yet” sensations, even when a choice meets reasonable criteria.

3) Safety behaviors
To reduce discomfort, short-term soothing behaviors appear. Common examples include extra research, more option comparisons, reassurance seeking, reopening closed decisions, and starting new lists. These behaviors reduce anxiety briefly, which reinforces them, even as they extend delay and increase distress later.

4) Short relief, then doubt
Relief fades quickly. Doubt returns. The decision stays open. Delay adds guilt or frustration, which lowers mood and increases the felt need for certainty before acting.

5) Loop tightening
Because relief followed checking, the brain learns that checking equals safety, and delay equals protection. Over time, the threshold for “enough certainty” rises, even for small choices. Decision times lengthen, daily functioning drops. 

In clinical OCD this loop is driven by obsessions and compulsions. Outside of OCD, the same ingredients can still produce significant paralysis during depressive episodes, especially when ADHD or anxiety increase cognitive load and threat sensitivity.

Why this map matters
It identifies leverage points. Intervene at the appraisal stage by practicing tolerance of uncertainty. Intervene at the safety-behavior stage by reducing checking and reassurance. Intervene at the loop-tightening stage by completing small, reversible decisions that teach the nervous system that action can be safe without complete certainty. The next section converts these leverage points into a low-energy, step-by-step plan.

Neighbors on the Map: What this is not
OCD is defined by intrusive, unwanted thoughts or urges that feel out of line with one’s values, followed by rituals or safety behaviors done to cut distress, not to gain pleasure. Perfectionism without OCD can look intense, however the driver is usually preference, identity, or standards. A perfectionist might rewrite an email because they like excellence. In OCD, you can feel a spike of doubt, then rewrite to relieve fear, for example fear of causing harm or being judged. If you remove the anxiety, the OCD behavior fades, while healthy striving remains satisfying even when calm.

OCPD traits are different again. These are long standing personality patterns built around control, rules, and rigidity. Someone with strong OCPD traits may insist on their way because they believe it is correct and do not feel distressed by the rituals. In OCD, the person usually knows the ritual is excessive and feels trapped by it. That ego-dystonic quality, meaning it feels “not me,” is a helpful clue. OCPD shows up as inflexible standards across many settings, while OCD clusters around specific obsessions and the compulsions tied to them.

Generalized anxiety often brings worry that roams from topic to topic and does not require a ritual to settle. It is a stream of “what ifs” with muscle tension, poor sleep, and fatigue. ADHD can add executive friction, late starts, unfinished tasks, and perfectionistic delay, but the core is difficulty with initiation, working memory, and time sense, not an anxiety spike that demands a ritual. If a timer, a smaller step, or a body-double clears the blockade, and there is no urge to neutralize fear, that points to ADHD-only friction rather than OCD. When in doubt, bring these distinctions to a clinician, and use them as language for your Section 3 experiments, since the right label will shape which rungs you try first.

Sources for Section 2

  1. Pushkarskaya, H., et al. 2015. “Decision-Making Under Uncertainty in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4562025/
  2. Knowles, K. A., et al. 2023. “Intolerance of Uncertainty as a Cognitive Vulnerability for OCD, Review.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39431164/
  3. Coles, M. E., et al. 2003. “‘Not-Just-Right’ Experiences, Perfectionism, OCD, and Anxiety.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12732376/
  4. International OCD Foundation. 2024. “Exposure and Response Prevention, ERP.” https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/treatment/erp/

Section 3 — A low-energy skills plan for decision paralysis

This plan turns the leverage points from Section 2 into small, repeatable actions. It draws on Exposure and Response Prevention for uncertainty tolerance, and on Behavioral Activation for energy and momentum. 

To be clear, this section is educational and offers a simple structure to review with a clinician, it is not medical advice. Do not try new techniques on your own if distress is high, if OCD is suspected, or if any choice carries medical, legal, safety, financial, or relationship stakes. Review any plan with a qualified clinician who knows your history, and use the ideas here as talking points based on the sources listed below.

What counts as low risk, decide here first

  • Reversible within 24–48 hours
  • Financial impact under a small personal cap you choose
  • No medical, legal, or safety consequences
  • No relationship-changing stakes

Principles

  • Practice tolerating uncertainty in tiny doses
  • Prevent escape hatches, both external and internal
  • Reward completion, not the feeling of certainty

Step 1, tiny timed choices, then lock

  • Choose between two comparable options with a 30–60 second timer, then commit and do not switch.
  • Exposure window, 10 minutes or until distress drops by ~30 percent, whichever comes first, then move on.
  • If distress does not drop, end by 15 minutes, and make the next rep easier, fewer options, smaller stakes.

Step 2, the Good Enough Rule, pre-commit once

  • Write three criteria, must-have, nice-to-have, deal-breaker.
  • Decide when two must-haves are met and no deal-breakers are hit, within two minutes.
  • Stop at the first acceptable option that meets the rule.

Step 3, shrink the decision

  • Label the decision reversible vs irreversible and low vs high impact.
  • Apply fast picks only to reversible, low-impact choices.
  • Save longer checks for irreversible, high-impact choices.

Step 4, block the top three safety behaviors for seven days

  • List your three most common behaviors, for example adding comparison tabs, asking for reassurance, reopening closed decisions.
  • Include mental reassurance here, silent pros-and-cons loops, mental reviews, self-talk like “it will be fine,” count this as reassurance.
  • Expect discomfort to peak and begin to fall. Note the first minute you notice a drop.

Step 5, a short decision ladder with pass criteria

  • Build a 10-rung ladder from easy to hard. Example rungs:
    1. pick a mug, select a playlist, choose a walk route, send a two-line message without another reread, pick a meeting slot,
    2. choose a small household item, publish a simple post, select a trial vendor, submit a routine form, pick a contractor to test first
  • Do two easy and one moderate rung per day.
  • Pass rule: complete the same rung on three nonconsecutive days with end-of-window distress ≤4 out of 10, then advance.

A brief daily structure

  • One 10-minute Behavioral Activation block, walk, shower, light chore
  • One tiny timed choice from the ladder
  • One moderate choice with the Good Enough Rule
  • Minimal viable day when energy is very low, do one of the above only
  • One-sentence log, what I decided and which safety behavior I blocked

Troubleshooting

  • If you froze, shrink the choice set to two options next time
  • If urges did not ebb, extend the exposure to 15 minutes or lower the stake
  • If you slipped into reassurance, mark it, do not restart, continue the exposure and count the slip as data

Why this plan works

  • In ERP, facing triggers while preventing safety behaviors teaches that anxiety and urges rise and naturally decline without rituals.
  • Behavioral Activation improves depressive symptoms by increasing completed, value-aligned actions, which supports the energy and momentum needed to practice ERP.
  • Decision research in OCD highlights the role of intolerance of uncertainty and not-just-right experiences in over-checking and delay, each step above targets these mechanisms directly.

Sources for Section 3

  1. International OCD Foundation. 2024. “Exposure and Response Prevention, ERP.” https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/treatment/erp/
  2. McLean Hospital. 2025. “What Is ERP Therapy? A Guide to OCD’s Leading Treatment.” https://www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/erp
  3. Knowles, K. A., et al. 2023. “Intolerance of Uncertainty as a Cognitive Vulnerability for OCD, Review.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39431164/
  4. Coles, M. E., et al. 2003. “‘Not-Just-Right’ Experiences, Perfectionism, OCD, and Anxiety.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12732376/
  5. Dimidjian, S., et al. 2006. “Randomized Trial of Behavioral Activation vs Cognitive Therapy vs Antidepressants in Major Depression.” https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16881773/
  6. Wang, X., et al. 2022. “Behavioral Activation, Conceptual Overview and Evidence.” https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.845138/full

Section 4 — Medication basics for depressive dips and OCD-like decision loops

This section explains where medication can fit for people who experience depression with decision paralysis, and for those who also carry an OCD diagnosis. It is informational, not medical advice. Decisions about starting, stopping, or changing medication belong with a qualified prescriber.

When medication is commonly considered

Medication is not mandatory. It is one option among several, and it tends to help most when symptoms make daily life or skills practice hard. Typical flags include persistent moderate to severe depression, anxiety so high that it blocks Exposure and Response Prevention practice, and OCD symptoms that remain impairing even after a solid trial of skills. In these situations, a prescriber may suggest an antidepressant to lower overall distress so that behavioral work is doable.

What SSRIs are, and why they are often first

‘Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors’ are a common class of antidepressants. For depression, they can lift mood, steady sleep and energy, and reduce background anxiety. For OCD, they can also help by lowering the internal alarm that drives checking and reassurance. The important difference is dose and time. OCD usually requires higher therapeutic dose ranges and longer trials than depression before judging the effect. That is normal, and it is part of why prescribers schedule follow ups early.

Timelines and decision points

Early in treatment, side effects sometimes show up, often in week one or two. Common ones include transient nausea, sleep changes, restlessness or a wired feeling, and sexual side effects. Many improve with time or with dose timing adjustments. For depression, benefits are often assessed around weeks four to six of daily dosing. For OCD, prescribers usually assess response after eight to twelve weeks at a therapeutic dose. Planning the follow up at the start helps changes happen in a calm, scheduled way rather than as a reaction to a rough day.

If response is partial

If mood lifts a bit but remains low, or if urges and rituals drop but still interfere, prescribers have a few paths. They may continue the dose longer, adjust the dose within safe limits, switch to a different SSRI, or for OCD consider augmentation in selected cases, for example adding a low dose antipsychotic with monitoring. Another option for OCD is clomipramine, a tricyclic with strong evidence that is used when benefits outweigh risks. These choices are individualized, with attention to side effects, medical history, and personal goals.

Safety and collaboration

Good care includes screening for bipolar spectrum risk before starting an antidepressant, since unrecognized bipolar patterns can change the plan. It also includes checking for drug–drug interactions, including with over the counter supplements and alcohol. Do not start, stop, or change doses without a plan from a prescriber. Sudden stops can cause withdrawal-like symptoms. Report sleep disruption, new agitation, panic spikes, or sexual side effects. Antidepressants carry a suicidality warning in younger populations, and any increase in suicidal thoughts deserves prompt contact with a clinician. If crisis develops, call or text 988 in the United States, or use local emergency services.

How medication supports skills

Medication can lower the volume, skills change the pattern. By reducing background distress, SSRIs can make it easier to do tiny exposures and to prevent reassurance and extra checking. The goal is not to chase a perfect feeling. The goal is to act on values while the nervous system learns that uncertainty can be tolerated.

What to track between visits

Simple notes make follow ups more useful. Track daily dosing, missed or late doses, mood, sleep, energy, and any restlessness. Track urges to check or seek reassurance, and how often rituals happen. Note sexual side effects or gastrointestinal issues. Note whether tiny timed choices and Good Enough Rule decisions are getting easier to complete. Bring this information to the appointment so adjustments are grounded in lived data, not just in memory.

A conversation starter for a visit

“I am dealing with depression and decision paralysis. I am considering practicing small ERP style steps for uncertainty. Can we review whether an SSRI makes sense for me, what dose and timeline to expect, and set a follow up to evaluate”

Sources for Section 4

  1. Xu, J., et al. 2021. “SSRI Dose–Response in OCD, Systematic Review and Meta-analysis.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8495022/
  2. Gualtieri, G., et al. 2025. “Narrative Review of Supratherapeutic SSRI Doses in OCD.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12155805/

Section 5 — Bring this to your clinician

This page turns the ideas in this article into a focused, collaborative visit. The aim is to make appointments easier, protect safety, and keep decisions grounded in your real life. This article is educational. If you have access to care, bring this page to a therapist or prescriber. In a crisis, call or text 988 in the United States, or use local emergency services. Outside the U.S., use your country’s emergency number or local crisis line.

What to share in session

  • Top three sticky moments from the past week, name the task, place, and time of day.
  • What you already tried in brief bullets, what helped, what backfired.
  • Any safety themes you are worried about, e.g., harm, trauma, or contamination with medical risk.
  • Your home boundary, confirm you are keeping practice to low-risk, reversible choices only, with no medical, legal, safety, financial, or relationship stakes.

Examples to make it concrete

  • Admin: “I kept reopening a calendar choice after it already met my rule.”
  • Social: “I asked for reassurance twice before sending a normal message.”
  • Health-log: “I switched between vitamins because I felt unsure after deciding.”

Three questions to ask

  1. What does good progress look like for me, and how will we measure it? For example fewer reopenings, fewer reassurance asks, faster small decisions.
  2. Which ideas here fit my history, and which should I avoid? Confirm the low-risk boundary for my situation.
  3. When should I pause home efforts and step up care? Agree on clear tripwires like hours lost most days or urges that do not ease.

What to track between visits

  • Counts, not essays: weekly totals for reopenings, reassurance asks, new tabs after deciding, and skipped timers.
    • Minimum viable tracking: if that feels heavy, count reopenings only for the week (still a strong early signal).
  • Small outcomes: did a tiny, reversible decision get completed without switching back (yes/no).
  • Effort or distress snapshots: quick start and end ratings during short efforts to right-size the next step.

Fit the plan to your life

  • Right-size “low risk.” Reconfirm what reversible and low-impact means for you, and what to avoid this week.
  • Design the environment so the plan is easier than the loop: keep your rule card visible, save two timers as favorites, keep short default option lists where you decide.
  • If you want accountability, keep it behavioral and brief: a weekly read-out of counts only—no advice, no comforting loops.
  • Medication coordination (if relevant): bring a simple dosing and side-effect note, plus whether tiny timed choices and Good Enough decisions are getting easier.

Privacy and accessibility

  • Privacy: keep notes offline or in a private doc; avoid sensitive details in shared files.
  • Accessibility: any format is fine—voice notes, large fonts, or index cards. The goal is light tracking you can actually keep.

Sources for Section 5

  1. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. “Get Help Now.” https://988lifeline.org/
  2. National Institute of Mental Health. “Finding Help for Mental Illnesses.” https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help
  3. National Institute of Mental Health. “Psychotherapies.” https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/psychotherapies
  4. American Psychological Association. “Understanding Psychotherapy and How It Works.” https://www.apa.org/topics/psychotherapy/understanding
  5. Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality (AHRQ). “The SHARE Approach: A Model for Shared Decisionmaking.” https://www.ahrq.gov/shareddecisionmaking/index.html 

Conclusion

This is education, not medical advice. It is for readers who notice choices get sticky when mood drops. Use it to name the loop in plain language, work small and reversible, and shape a plan you can review in care.

We covered the core ideas you need to get unstuck. The preamble set the tone, compassion first, low pressure, plain words. We defined the freeze as a simple loop you can see and measure. We laid out a low-energy structure for small decisions that favors timers, choice caps, and good enough rules. We set clear safety and access boundaries so practice stays humane. We closed with a way to bring real-life notes to a clinician so care fits your day.

Keep the boundary tight. Practice only on low-risk, reversible choices, pause if distress is high or the stakes are high. Do one small thing next. Pick one tiny rule for the week, send after one reread, or two tabs only, and choose one thing to bring to care, three sticky moments and what you tried. 

Progress is not a feeling. Count a few more small decisions finished, a few fewer reopenings, fewer reassurance asks. Praise attempts, protect energy, consistency over intensity.

If safety is at risk, use 988 in the United States, use local emergency services elsewhere. Otherwise, take one small step today, and review it with care when you can.

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Two Sides of the Same Storm: Understanding the Intersection of Anxiety and Depression

Introduction: A Personal Note

For many of us in recovery, we came to DA thinking we just had depression—until we realized we were also battling something else beneath the surface: anxiety.

This was certainly true for me, sure I had dealt with anxious moments and looking back I can see that I interpreted anxiety as stress. However these weren’t regular concerns and were at best sporadic, until I found myself in a severe depressive episode for 3 years, following which I was diagnosed with MDD, Major Depressive Disorder.

The anxiety was secondary to the bone deep sadness but it was there, a constant that would rear up. At the very least it would complicate my depression further but at times it felt like my heart would suddenly stop because it was beating so fast.

Whether it showed up as racing thoughts, obsessive worries, social dread, or chest-tightening panic, anxiety often walks hand-in-hand with depression, complicating both diagnosis and healing. These two conditions can seem like opposites, one sluggish, one agitated, but in truth, they often share the same root system.

Understanding how anxiety and depression intersect can help us untangle our emotions, validate our lived experiences, and take more effective steps toward recovery. This article explores how they relate, why they frequently show up together, and what we can do when they do.

I hope it helps.

Section 1: Shared Symptoms, Different Faces

“Having anxiety and depression is like being scared and tired at the same time. It’s the fear of failure, coupled with no urge to be productive. It’s wanting friends but hating socializing. It’s wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely.”
— From “What Does Depression Feel Like?”

Anxiety and depression are distinct diagnoses, but they often present overlapping symptoms that can confuse even experienced clinicians. This overlap can also lead to misdiagnosis or underdiagnosis, especially in people who have learned to mask or intellectualize their distress.

Shared Symptom Anxiety Depression
Trouble sleeping Racing thoughts, restlessness Early waking, low energy
Poor concentration Distracted by fear and worry Foggy thinking, low motivation
Physical tension Muscle tightness, stomach issues Heaviness, body fatigue
Irritability Hyper-alert, easily triggered Easily overwhelmed, emotionally numb
Sense of dread Fear of what might happen Hopelessness that nothing will change

What differs is the direction of energy. Anxiety feels like a motor revving too high. Depression feels like the battery’s gone flat. But both come from a dysregulated nervous system—just two sides of the same storm. In practice, many people swing between both poles, which can make day-to-day functioning unpredictable and exhausting.

Section 2: Why They Show Up Together

“Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrows; it empties today of its strengths.”
— Corrie Ten Boom

Roughly 60–70% of people with depression also experience anxiety. It’s not a coincidence—these conditions often grow from the same soil and thrive in the same environments. If we think of them as plants, anxiety is the vine wrapping tightly around your chest, and depression is the slow wilting of your will to move.

Brain Chemistry Imbalance:
Both conditions involve disrupted neurotransmitters—serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine—which affect mood, motivation, and stress response. When these chemicals are out of balance, even basic functions like sleep, appetite, and attention become compromised.

Chronic Stress and Cortisol:
When the body is under constant stress, it releases cortisol. Over time, this “stress hormone” wears down your brain’s fear-regulation and mood-regulation centers. Think of it like an alarm that never gets shut off—it keeps the system on high alert until it crashes. This wears down the hippocampus, impairs memory, and can shrink the prefrontal cortex—the area responsible for decision-making and emotional regulation.

Neuroplasticity (In Simple Terms):
The brain learns from experience, good or bad. The more time we spend in anxious or depressed states, the more wired-in they become. But the reverse is also true: we can rewire our brains through new, healing experiences. Every time we reach out for help, take a small risk, or try something new, we plant seeds of recovery in our neural pathways.

Emotional Exhaustion:
Living with constant anxiety such as hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts and shame can wear us down until collapse. That collapse is often depression. Likewise, being stuck in depression, feeling useless or numb, can trigger anxiety about falling behind, failing others, or never recovering.

This collapse is not weakness. It’s a nervous system that’s overloaded and out of balance. It’s a biological and psychological consequence of too much fear with too little relief.

That’s why recovery can feel so confusing: do we treat the sadness or the fear? The answer is both. Because they often show up together—and heal together too. DA provides a structure for emotional and spiritual maintenance, but it’s okay to seek support beyond it if you’re navigating both conditions at once.

Section 3: The Cycle of Mutual Reinforcement

“Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.”
— Arthur Somers Roche

Anxiety and depression feed off each other. They create what I call “A Paralyzing Spiral”—a loop of fear, shame, and inaction that deepens the longer it runs. Once inside this loop, we often lose access to clarity, motivation, and even language for what we’re experiencing.

Here’s how that can look:

What if I mess up the meeting?
→ “I’m going to fail again.”
→ “Why even bother?”
→ Isolation, numbness, more fear next time.
→ Delay, dread, despair.
→ Repeat.

Avoidance plays a key role. You might put off checking your bank balance, calling a friend, or starting something important. Anxiety says “What if it goes badly?” Depression follows up with “Why try?” Eventually, you stop doing the things that once brought relief, further deepening the cycle.

The more we avoid, the more guilt and dread we feel—just like the addiction cycle. Many of us in DA know this rhythm well: discomfort → avoid → short-term relief → worse long-term pain. The spiral is exhausting—but it can be interrupted. Naming the pattern is the first step to weakening it.

Section 4: What This Means in Recovery

“Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression…”
— Grenville Kleiser

If you’re working the Steps and still feel stuck, anxious, or flooded—it’s not a failure. It might be anxiety interfering with your ability to heal. Recovery is rarely linear, and our emotional barriers often surface at different points in the journey.

  • You’ve done Step 4, but you lie awake replaying what you should have said.
  • You want a sponsor, but the idea of reaching out makes your chest tighten.
  • You want to share in a meeting, but you’re convinced you’ll say the wrong thing.
  • You start to feel better—and then panic, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

This isn’t laziness or resistance, it’s often unconscious self-sabotage driven by fear. For trauma survivors, it can also be emotional flashbacks such as when an interaction triggers a flood of emotion from the past, and you suddenly feel unsafe, ashamed, or small. These flashbacks are not memories in the traditional sense but full-body reactions that reflect unresolved emotional trauma.

DA work may stir old wounds.

Knowing this can help you approach your recovery with more self-compassion, not judgment. Bringing these patterns into the light with a sponsor or trusted peer can ease the intensity and help you stay present for the process.

Section 5: Tools That Help Both

“When you’re going through hell, keep going.”
— Winston Churchill

The best part? Many of the tools that help with depression also soothe anxiety—when practiced with intention and patience. Even small, imperfect efforts can send signals of safety to a nervous system stuck in survival mode.

Why Behavioral Activation Works:
Action creates feedback. When we move our body, make a call, or complete something small, it tells the brain: “I can do hard things.” This rewires the circuits of avoidance and helplessness. The reward doesn’t come first—it comes after we take the step. The trick is doing the thing even if it feels pointless in the moment.

Three Step-Focused Practices for Anxiety Awareness:

  1. 10th Step Check-ins: Ask “What fear drove my choices today?” Write it down or voice-note it.
  2. Fear Inventory in Step 4: Write out fears as patterns, not just events. Look for recurring beliefs: “I’m not good enough,” “They’ll leave me,” etc.
  3. DA Call and Response: When anxious, call someone with a structure: “Here’s what I’m afraid of, here’s what I’m doing anyway.” Even just voicing the fear can take away its power.

When to Seek Clinical Help:
If anxiety or depression blocks you from doing basic DA work (eating, sleeping, sharing, calling), it’s okay to seek therapy or medication. These are not betrayals of the Steps—they can make the Steps more accessible. Sometimes we need support regulating the nervous system before we can fully show up emotionally or spiritually.

Section 6: A Word on Shame

“I often wonder how many others are sitting near me, stuck in their own quiet battles…”
— Carlee J. Hansen

Shame is the silent partner to both anxiety and depression. It tells us we’re broken, unlovable, or weak for feeling this way. It tells us we’re a burden. That we’re falling behind. That we should be better by now.

Here’s the truth: there’s a difference between toxic shame and healthy remorse.

  • Remorse says, “I made a mistake.”
  • Toxic shame says, “I am a mistake.”

As Brené Brown writes, “Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.”
This is what’s called a disconnection wound—the kind of emotional pain that comes from being unseen, unheard, or unaccepted by the people we needed most. That wound doesn’t disappear just because we join a program. In fact, recovery often exposes how deep that wound runs.

Sometimes, depression and anxiety aren’t just brain chemistry—they’re survival strategies. Emotional numbness is often how the body protects itself from overwhelming feelings, especially if those feelings were never safe to express. Many of us grew up learning that vulnerability was dangerous, that tears meant weakness, or that we had to hold it all together.

If that’s your story, you’re not lazy. You’re not cold. You’re healing. And you’re not alone.

Conclusion: Calm Within the Storm

Anxiety screams. Depression whispers. But both are asking the same thing: Am I safe? Am I allowed to feel this?

It’s okay not to have the answer yet.

“Anxiety is the lightning. Depression is the fog. But both can clear when we step outside our heads and into connection.”

So take one small step. Call someone. Go to a meeting. Do something that tells your brain, “I’m allowed to live.” Even a deep breath counts.

Recovery isn’t about doing it perfectly. It’s about knowing you don’t have to do it alone.

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No Depressed Anonymous meeting in your community? We have a solution.

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We all know how depression works. It continually keeps us isolated and digging that hole just a little deeper. And one of the problems which we have is to find a group for those who want to be a member of our fellowship. We do have a solution.

We have enlarged our Home Study program so that anyone who wants to join and participate online can do so. We are now taking registrations (just mail us at depanon@netpenny.net saying you want to be a participant.)

The first thing to do is go to our website at https://depressedanonymous.org and click onto Menu at HOME STUDY PROGRAM. Here you will be able to learn in more detail what the Home Study involves.

Secondly, there is an excellent testimonial from Kim at Newsletters (The Antidepressant Tablet Vol.1) about the benefits from her working the Steps with a sponsor. Clicking onto The Depressed Anonymous Publications Bookstore will give you a better idea of what is involved.

We have members of our fellowship who are willing to provide assistance for those who want to use the Workbook and Manual for their own personal recovery. Hopefully this Home Study will enable them to start a group in their own community after having completed the work

There are no fees or dues for this sponsorship. But if your recovery is the most important priority then I do believe you will have a tried and true method of recovery, using the spiritual principles of the Twelve Steps. If purchasing the two books is a problem for you, please let us know. The Publisher has made the two books available with Ebooks. All communication between sponsor and participant will take place via emails.

This is a commitment on your part if you want us to sponsor you. I personally have been in recovery for 35 years and this path has definitely given me peace, sobriety and serenity.

Hugh, for the Depressed Anonymous fellowship

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The Power of Depressed Anonymous

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Originally published 16 July 2014

By Ray

What is the power of Depressed Anonymous?
Well, first let me that when I started attending D. A. meetings I went for a couple of months and then stopped. I stopped going because my depression was so bad I didn’t want to leave my apartment. I didn’t want to be around or talk to anyone. I just didn’t want to do anything except crawl in a hole somewhere and isolate myself from everything. Then after about six week of isolation I called the residential treatment facility where I had been a client to see if I had received any mail there and one of the members of the D. A. group where I attend answered the phone. I spent a few minutes talking to her and there was something in her voice that told me that for some reason it was important for me to be at the meeting. I attended the next D. A. meeting. After the meeting was over, I suddenly realized the importance and power of Depressed Anonymous.

So what is the power of Depressed Anonymous? For me, it’s just like attending the first meeting. I was a little scared and apprehensive at first, but then I found the Depressed Anonymous meeting was a place to go where there were other depressed people just like me. They could relate to and understand what I was going through. They didn’t judge me or think of me as crazy. I was accepted.

Another power of Depressed Anonymous the group and what each person brings to the group. I have seen our fellowship get stronger and grow. I have developed many friendships that I can depend on for support and understanding, I have watched some of the newcomers that have kept coming back, grow and improve, Even something as simple as a smile when there as not before. The miracle of the group empowers and energizes me.

The most important power of Depressed Anonymous is hope. Hope that we will not be
locked in the prison of depression forever and that there is a way out for each of us. A hope that our Higher Power will work the miracle through us and that we will fwd our own happiness. I have hope that our hearts and minds will know love and peace like we have never known or felt before. The power of Depressed Anonymous works for me. I hope and pray that it works for you. Keep coming back!”

Source: DEPRESSED ANONYMOUS, Harmony House Publishers, 1998, Pages 154-155.

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Coming to DA I learned how to be free from saddening myself

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When I was about twelve I heard the term manic depression for the first time.  I did not understand the definition I was given but I knew it had something to do with me. It was then that I began the process of hiding my sadness and negative emotions because the message from those around me was that being sad and afraid was unacceptable.  More than once in grade school teachers called me aside to ask about what might be going on in my life that could cause me to isolate on the playground.  I did not know what to tell them as I did not understand myself, but it was the beginning of habitual self-abandonment.

Throughout my teens, I had continued periods of isolation and social hyper-activity.  I became an introvert but disguised myself as an extrovert.  To hide my social anxiety and fear I got involved in school plays, clubs and leadership.  I began to split my personality between the boy who made his family and friends laugh and the boy who cloistered himself in his bedroom.  Escapism began to be a big part of my thinking and desires.  In college I became even more depressed and felt more isolated.  I habitually cut class and spent the days dissociating by “philosophizing.”  I was clearly searching for personal significance and a connection to a God of my understanding.  I felt alone like never before with the increasing awareness of the great disparity between the world I came from and the world I was faced with in college

In graduate school I maintained a high degree of involvement in the department and in the school leadership.  I cultivated a robust social life finally being accepted and stimulated socially, culturally and intellectually.  For the first time in my life I felt accepted among an understanding group of professors and colleagues that nurtured me just as I was.  I learned a great deal in a safe environment, one that I never knew existed, and I excelled intellectually in a manner I never thought possible.  I proved to myself that I was worthy and able to perform in academia.  Still, I often cried myself to sleep wishing I was dead and not understanding why.  I developed PTSD after 9/11 and as the depression became unmanageable I spiraled into near homelessness.

After discovering DA I came to know that I was not alone but that other people had gone through the same things I had or worse.  I found a group of people that understood what it is to be depressed and accepted my story without judgment or added stigma.  DA relieved me of the stigma of being damaged beyond repair that had plagued me my entire life.  Coming to DA made me realize I was not the only one carrying the burden of depression.  I was not chronically alone.  I was not isolated in the despair of depression.

Through DA and hearing other people’s shares I realized my experiences were a valid source of the disappointment, dismay and depression I had been feeling all my life.  I learned also that surviving those experiences could be a source of strength that testified to my perseverance over them.  This self-awareness has also given me new found hope that had been missing from my outlook on my life and future.   Hearing others’ experiences as well as working the steps has given me hope: the hope that, yes, I can manage depression and live a fuller life.  Most importantly learning the concept of saddening myself has done more to liberate me from sadness.  I know now that my mind and emotions have been conditioned to recreate my past sadness which was instilled in me by others and society.  Now I can recognize the manner in which I sadden myself and take the steps to stop it and reverse it.

January 2024, Luis, NYC

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When you’re depressed all you’re interested in is survival – Dorothy Rowe

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THE ORIGINS of MISTRUST

I want to share with you how Dr. Fitzgibbons, a psychiatrist, provides examples how our lack of trust can originate in early childhood. Patterns of isolating behavior and negative thinking, grow strong in a home environment where the child is not loved and nurtured.

Dr. Fitzgibbons, tells us “that the seedbed of mistrust resides in childhood. Many times this lack of trust, of others and ourselves and the world around us, may have begun with the loss of a parent, sister, brother, or a close friend. A serious illness in a parent, sibling or oneself can be the cause of depression. Many times mistrust comes about because of an alcoholic parent so that a child never knows if a drunken loved one is coming home, or in an angry drunken stupor. Anger and rejection by caregivers and/or peers can also have an effect on the ability to trust. Parental divorce or separation can have an effect on a child. Also a cold distant, and unloving parent can have a negative effect on a child. Add to this, a legacy of mistrust and fear in the family will negatively influence a child. Finally, poverty may also be a cause of mistrust”

Brenda, (not her real name ) shares with us some of her own story:

“I have often reflected on how a lack of trust in myself and in others, had a crippling effect on my early childhood development. It was only until I began examining my own childhood, later in life, that I discovered reasons for my mistrust of others. I accomplished these discoveries by getting in touch with those early negative feelings that constantly bombarded my everyday thinking. Most of these early feelings remained unconscious and hidden, until I started to examine my childhood relationships, especially with those significant others who were my caregivers.”

By utilizing the Depressed Anonymous Workbook with its’ 12 STEP COMMENTARY, and questions, directed toward one’s early life experiences, special attention was centered on those caregivers and significant others in one’s family, who, charged with caregiving, to provide the child with the love that a child deserves. For many children, who grew up in a home environment, filled with anger, parental arguing, and violence, made it impossible for a child to defend themselves against such abuse, including mental, sexual, and physical abuse. Some children create fantasy worlds, some with imaginary friends, with whom they can confide in and feel secure in a home environment where chaos reigns.

In our Depressed Anonymous fellowship, we can begin to open up to group members, giving us that opportunity to share and trust, others, who are like ourselves. We happily discovered that we are now no longer alone. Most of us come to our program of recovery, looking to find help, and that welcome relief from the daily crippling burden of depression, which has forced us to isolate from others, believing that we are not good enough.

Earlier, Dr, Fitzgibbons has listed some of the major causes of our childhood depression, and we can resonate with them within our hearts and minds. And in your moments of personal quiet and reflection, celebrate who you are and not who others say you are.

So get a notebook, and begin to write down your answers to those questions in the DA Workbook, which hold meaning for your own personal life and recovery, to which you can relate. Share your DA Workbook with your therapist, sponsor or friends in Depressed Anonymous at the ZOOM meetings online, and/or face to face meetings.

So now, not only will you be a survivor, you will no longer be a victim of those circumstances, which made you believe that you were worthless, unlovable and unacceptable. Progress, not perfection.

By completing my Fourth Step inventory, it became possible to uncover those areas of my early life which made trusting an impossibility. As mentioned earlier, and later into my early adult life, it was my own spiraling downward, into the darkness of depression, the only thing that I could think of was my survival. I was desperate to stop the descent into the darkness and physical pain. I knew that I must get active, preventing my paralyzing desire to take comfort in sleep and shut out the world.

My life is very different now. I continue to take inventory of my life on a daily basis and I finally believe in myself and the Higher Power that has helped me believe that I have a purpose and a meaning for my life. I also believe in a power that is greater than myself and who continually leads me, everyday, on this wonderful journey of hope! Progress and not perfection.

TRUST IS A FEELING OF BEING SAFE IN RELATIONSHIPS AND IN LIFE.

HUGH S., FOR THE FELLOWSHIP

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Helen, gets it! “I have to take responsibility for my own life.”

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The following excerpt is from a letter that Helen wrote to the Depressed Anonymous fellowship about her recovery from depression.

Her story is just one of the many stories, relating their recovery from depression, found in the Personal Stories section of Depressed Anonymous Pages 110-152.

“Now that I look back and see the way I was and see now how I am now,
I can’t believe that I ever knew that other person. This person is different altogether. I like this person now very much. I am thankful to the group. They are just wonderful. They are my family. They are my Depressed Anonymous family. I also have my church family. It is a wonderful feeling to know that there is a Higher Power that can take you through these things. At first, I thought, “I doubt that very much” when everyone was talking about the Higher Power and peace in my life. Then it happened to me. Every few days, the world dumps down on you and beats you down. That’s my life. I always think to myself that there is that extra strength that I didn’t have before. I feel that everything is going to be OK with me. I have that peace now myself.”

Copyright(c) Depressed Anonymous (1998) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, KY. pp 145-148.

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Not everything faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced

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I have found this statement, by James Baldwin to be as true as day is long. I also know from my own experiences. When fear comes upon us like a dark cloud, we are tempted to run. When an obstacle prevents us from reaching a goal, we stop. But when we make that decision to face the problem, good things start to happen.

Today, I am going to choose to face the problem-whatever that might be. I am choosing to use the 12 Steps of Depressed Anonymous to make this happen.

Hugh S.