This is a must-do for those of us who are or were depressed.

 

An excerpt for BELIEVING IS SEEING

“Keep physically fit is a must for us who are and who have been depressed. My walking not only restores harmony to the body but it restores my self-esteem and self-confidence. One of the major areas to remember  when someone says that they are depressed is to recommend that they get some physical exercise. So many times when we find that we are depressed, feel listless and lacking energy we tend to recoil from any activity that attempts to force us out of our isolation and inactivity. At one time our lives, any task or type of activity, even the smallest might have been cause for happiness and a continued life of productivity. When we are depressed , we just want  to lie down and sleep.  We feel that we have no mastery in our life, thoughts and future. What we forget is that this is the innate nature of depression. We believe that there is no use in getting active because we just can’t get the energy to even attempt anything that requires a positive response.

Mastery is what we gain when  we force ourselves to get out of bed, get going and start an exercise program on a regular basis.

“Walking is  a very efficient exercise,” Dr. Leach asserts, “especially in terms of toning muscles and giving people a good feeling.”

Dr. Ralph Wharton, another psychiatrist tells us that “going for a walk prevents excessive preoccupation and rumination, and it distracts you from your own inner concerns.— after all you have to look where you are going.” Prevention Magazine, June 1985, Pg. 95.

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I can state for a fact,  walking  gradually helped clear my mind   of the fog that had it imprisoned  and in a lock down. It took awhile. It didn’t happen overnight. It was the sheer   desperation and   strong   desire to free myself from whatever had me mentally paralyzed.  It was months later when  I slowly felt the fog begin to lift. Gradually the hollow feeling in the gut, the painful anxiety and trepidation that filled my body without  letup all slowly dissipated. Because I feared that whatever  brought me down would come back and bite me. I kept on walking.   I have to say I really never had many down days in my life.  I’ve suffered my losses and hurts like everyone else but  I never had experienced the depth of the pain that made me scared, hopeless and helpless.

It was short time later when I had my old self again. My mood became  hopeful.  I could even feel a little cheery knowing that there was a light at the end of the tunnel. From that day forward, I knew that the secret of staying focused and upbeat was for me to walk everyday. And what lesson I learned from this was to reflect on what was going on in my life that preceded these  dark symptoms of depression. I believe that symptoms of depression don’t just fall out of the sky–out of the blue.  The way my thinking  continuously  cycled   negative thoughts,    producing  negative feelings,   and these  gradually had me imprisoned and behind the bars of my fears and isolation from others.  A gradual distancing my family and friends was  the result of a deepening  separation from everything that previously made  my daily life pleasant and hopeful.

 

I also have written about this fact in our recent publication, I’ll do it when I feel better.

I Feel That Everything Is Going To Be OK With Me

The 5th Way, excerpted from BELIEVING IS SEEING: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression. (2017) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.

Remember that an oak tree was once an acorn -recovery begins by taking one step at a time as well as reading DEPRESSED ANONYMOUS literature and regularly participating in the meetings.

How often do we meet people in the program who want the quick fix , the easy way out, the feeling better now! But just as it  might have taken years for the person to learn how to get themselves depressed, it will task time and work to feel better. I do believe that all good growth in nature is gradual and that if we want the good growth to continue, we need to follow certain steps to make sure this growth will continue. One of the first things that we want to do is admit, like any other thing, person or substance to which we are attached we cannot free ourselves from this attachment by will power alone. We ask our Higher Power, this power greater than ourselves to free us. We begin our recovery by meeting with our local Depressed Anonymous group and admit by our presence that we  want to change.  We are dissatisfied where we are now and decide to work on ourselves so that we will feel better. Thus by our taking one step at a time we can actually feel a change happening. Many people who have been depressed for years — they are in so much pain that they want relief now. The members of the group are taking full responsibility for their feelings, moods and behavior.”pgs. 29-32

To live means to participate  in a weekly face to face meeting with other members and  if there is no group available to go to in your community –you can do an at Home study program  with the self-help  HOME  STUDY KIT which includes the DA Manual and the DA Workbook.  One can also access and read the hundreds of Blogs in the Depressed Anonymous archives and Newsletters. .


Here is an excerpt from Helen’s Story, in her own words, as it appears in Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition, personal stories. Pages 147-148.

“Now that I look back and see the way I was and see how I am now, I can’t believe that I ever knew that other person. The person is different altogether. I like this person very much now. I am so thankful to the group. They are just wonderful. They are my family. They are my Depressed Anonymous family. I also have my church family. It’s a wonderful feeling to know that there is a Higher Power that can help you through these things.  At first, I thought “I  doubt that very much ” when everyone was talking  about the Higher Power and  peace in my life. Then  it happened to me.  Every few days, the world dumps down on you and beats you down. That’s just life. I always think to myself that there is that extra strength that I didn’t have before. I feel that everything is going to be OK with me. I have that peace now myself.”

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SOURCES:  Believing is seeing: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression.  Depressed Anonymous  Publications. (2017) Louisville.

Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (1998, 2008, 2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.  HOME STUDY KIT

The Depressed Anonymous Workbook (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. HOME STUDY KIT

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All the books listed here can be purchased online.

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I have found persons who understand me and my problems

#FOUR/ BELIEVING IS SEEING: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression.  (2017) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
”  No longer am I alone in my depression. I can now see that it is up to me to form new friendships with others in the fellowship of the Depressed Anonymous Group. I have found persons who understand me  and my problems. I also learn coping skills and new positive behaviors from my fellow group members. ”

Below are listed some of  the advantages of belonging  to the Depressed Anonymous fellowship.

  • Receive acceptance  and support from the fellowship.
  • The fellowship of DA places no judgments  on those who join the group.
  • No longer isolated and alone.
  • No “snap out of it” comments from persons who have not experienced depression.
  • Learn how to gradually remove depression from our lives by utilizing the tools provided by the fellowship.
  • Gain new friends who actually “do know”  how we feel.
  • Learn  skills in taking full responsibility for their feelings, thoughts and behaviors.
  • Learning how to be with others in a mutual aid group while simultaneously  developing our interpersonal and social skills.
  • By being part of the group, with persons like oneself, have an overwhelming BELIEF that since they are all getting better, they tell themselves “so can I.”
  • Depression symptoms grow best in  isolation and the withdrawal from others. Healthy encounters with others like ourselves and by using the spiritual principles of the 12 steps, we begin to feel better and gain   hope for ourselves.

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Ray’s  personal testimony, #20. The Power of Depressed Anonymous  is found in DEPRESSED  ANONYMOUS, 3rd edition. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. pgs.133-134.

           “So what is the power of Depressed Anonymous?  For me, it’s just like attending the first meeting. I was a little scared and apprehensive at first, but then I found the Depressed Anonymous meeting was a place to go where there were other depressed persons just like me. They could relate to and understand what I was going through. They didn’t judge me or think of me as crazy. I WAS ACCEPTED.

Ray tells us how “the most important power of Depressed Anonymous is hope.”

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The fellowship makes available a HOME SELF STUDY KIT comprised of the Depressed Anonymous Manual and The Depressed Anonymous Workbook.  Both of these books can be purchased together.  For those who might desire some further support for issues in their recovery  that may arise from the Self Study KIT can contact us at depanon@netpenny.net.

For many, a Depressed Anonymous  group may not be available in your community and so the reason for the Home Study Kit. Depressed persons who feel isolated and with no group available can  profit  from this Home Study and gain insights into their own depression symptoms plus learn  how to deal with them.

“Double trouble”

“Today, millions of Americans are suffering from what my colleague Charles  Derber calls “double trouble”  Those in double trouble have neither meaningful work, nor sustaining intimate ties.  The withering of community life in both domains  fosters a rootlessness and social disintegration that unquestionably contributes to the growth of emotional disorders.”

SOURCE:  Copyright(c) David A. Karp. 1996.  Speaking of Sadness. Depression, disconnection, and the Meanings of Illness. Oxford University Press. p.  178.

Comment.  In Speaking of Sadness (which I highly recommend) Karp points out so persuasively how culture creates the disconnection that influences us  in our work lives and love lives. It is in his last chapters,  Sickness, Self and Society and Sociology, Spirituality, and Suffering he continues to assert the reality of postmodern life which is less and less connected and  more individualistic and manifests itself in   which individuals are disconnected  from one another.

Karp believes that it is in the small group where true community is formed.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

A depressed person can’t stay parked in neutral but must get in gear!

 

“Procrastination is really sloth in five syllables.”

                             CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT

” The ones who get better are the ones who work their program, go to their meetings, have a sponsor and have a faith that this program will work for them as it has for thousands of others who have suffered with depression. I used to tell myself that I would start serious work on myself when I had more time, felt a little more cheerful or whatever. I know that these are all good examples of sloth or procrastination. I think depressed people have to fight against this more than others because at the very core of depression is a desire to not make a decision but to try and stay parked in neutral. To move out of depression takes an act of will because I will never feel better until I get into action.

I want to get well. I do want to feel better. I know that to feel better, I will have to get into motion.”

MEDITATION

We are going to commit ourselves to you, God. We are going to trust in you, and we have the faith that you will act boldly in our livers today. (Add your own personal comments here).

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SOURCE: Copyright. (c) Higher Thoughts for down days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for members of 12 step Fellowship groups.Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.  Pages 129-130.  June 29th thought for the day.

I THINK I AM DEPRESSED!

 

A THIRD WAY FOR LEAVING THE PRISON OF DEPRESSION.

“We trust others by sharing our recent episodes of loss/sadness while at the same time sharing our hopes and strengths. We trust our newfound positive beliefs for getting ourselves out of the prison of depression.”

“Thank goodness, people can now go to a group and find help–namely, the Depressed Anonymous mutual aid group. (A Home Self Study kit is also available. See literature at this site).  If I were a physician, I would administer some paper and pencil instrument which would give a reliable and valid impression of whether a person is depressing themselves or not.  Also somewhere in every primary care physician’s office there needs to be statements/brochures about the signs and symptoms of depression.  We agree with Lipowski who tells us that  “some patients need to be identified early, to try to prevent chronicity. It is important not to treat only their depression symptoms but also to offer them psychosocial intervention, emotional support and education.”

” Persons need  to be educated about depression and that one is not losing their mind when the symptoms of depression begin to take over their lives. Their own depression experience and the symptoms that comprise it may enable them to seek help faster. They may be relieved to know what it is that is happening to them. I believe a doctor or nurse practitioner would be more than happy to help de-stigmatize such a common and universal problem as depression or as some have called it in  an earlier time, melancholia. In time  and with our own advocacy as a mutual aid fellowship we will help make it OK to say “I think I am depressed!”   We hope by that fact to help  de-stigmatize  the common and natural response to loss. Remember to admit you’re depressed is the first step in recovery and the first step in getting yourself undepressed.”

The quotes listed above are excerpts from the THIRD  WAY chapter.

SOURCE: BELIEVING IS SEEING: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression. (2017). Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Pages 17-19.

THE HOME  SELF STUDY KIT is comprised of the manual DEPRESSED ANONYMOUS (2011)  3rd edition and THE DEPRESSED ANONYMOUS WORKBOOK(2011). VISIT THE STORE FOR MORE INFO.

I am on a mission of hope and personal recovery!

SOURCE: Believing is seeing: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression. DAP. Pages 11, 12, 13.

#2.  “I accepted that God, as the God of my understanding is loving and forgiving. The 12 step group and our God is the pillar of our strength and healing.”

As a young child growing up I always imagined God to be a mean old man with a long beard and always a frown on his face. I was filled with guilt and fear, thinking that I could never measure up to what he wanted  me to be. And ironically, it wasn’t til  I was in my late 30’s that I had a spiritual experience. I began to find that the God of my understanding was not the God of my childhood.

I fired my old God. Through the direction  of my Higher Power and the brand new relationship I was forming with members of a 12 Step recovery group, I gradually found myself finding serenity and hope filling the empty hole that was my life. I discovered that the God of my understanding  was merciful and leading me out of the addiction that had me by its grip. The miracle was that because I had hit bottom and had no place but to go and get help–I found that this was a critical time for me as  I surrendered  to this God of my understanding – I had nothing to lose except my misery.

I discovered, as it says in the 2nd Way out of the prison of depression that we want to live our lives with hope.  Step Two of Depressed Anonymous states that “we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” This is where my life took a dramatic turn.  With other members of the group I discovered over time and meetings, plus reading the Depressed Anonymous  literature, that thee was a way out for me. I too could get better and feel differently.

I knew that I was “about to start a new journey of hope. I am not alone as I have other fellow travelers who will lead me around the ditches and the potholes of that old depressive lifestyle that once ruled my thoughts and actions. Now I am on a mission of personal growth and recovery. I am already beginning to feel a glimmer of hope.”

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Leading a life filled with purpose and passion!

“We accept and believe that however hopeless everything appears now, we will recover from our depression.”  1st of the 15 beliefs. 

“We know that this belief is one of the most powerful things that we can hang onto as we move through the painful experience of depression. I have spent decades of working directly with depressed individuals and their families. Also. by my own  active participation in the 12 step recovery program, I know that those persons who keep coming back  to meeting after meeting, week after week, usually get better.”

In the coming days, I would like to familiarize you, the reader, with 15 ways that we can leave the prison of depression. I know there are so many more, but I chose some of the ways that I believe will be a great help in leaving the prison of depression.

I will be making reference to some of the thoughts from each of these 15 ways describing a pathway to freedom from the bondage of my depression.

When I entered through the door of my 1st  12 step meeting  these 35 years ago, I was scared. I was also certain  that I needed help. I knew that I must act and learn from folks who claimed they had gotten help and were breaking free from the life threatening grip of depression.   I also knew that the more I tried to figure this  all out in my head, I was like the dog chasing its tail.

Now, being free of the deadening and painful feelings of hollowness,  I know and believe how important it is not to isolate myself but to begin to engage with those just like myself and find some answers to a life that was gradually sinking  in the quicksand of despair.

So, the bottom line is to have that faith, that belief that I too am going to get better. Others have made it and so why can’t I as well.

Because I believed that there was an answer, a hope that I would get better, my life gradually turned from despair to hope .

Let’s say that there are no Depressed Anonymous meetings in your community and so how can you get help? Basically this book has been written to let you know that there are ways where you too can leave your depression behind. Granted you will need more than just a belief  to get out of the prison but you must begin to act on these beliefs.  As the old Russian states : Believe but keep you oars in the water and continue to row to shore.

Believing is seeing: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression will help you get to the safety of the shore of hope and healing.

“And once we get involved with our 12 step program of recovery  we discover that our journey of hope is just begining. We are depressed and we know what we have. It is knowing what we have now and doing something about it that is the challenge facing us. We know that in order to survive  and lead a life filled with purpose and passion we have to start today to learn all that we can about depression, its consequences if left untreated, and a program that is solution focused. ”  Believing is seeing. Pages 1-2, 10.

 

The depression experience is about the way we feel, think and behave

When you think of depression do you think of it like it’s one big thing or do you see it   for the many parts that  make up a depression  experience, namely, the way that we think, behave, or feel? In other words, when we make it to be a thing,  it holds power over us like it came out of the blue – we talk about depression in medical terms I just had a bout of depression – like it came from outside of us  like an infected germ or virus. In reality, our depression is made up of many parts, such as particular depressed  ways of thinking, behaving and feeling.

Think about the ways that you perceive your depression.  Can you distinguish the various parts that go to form what we call the depression experience?

Which of the following illustrations can you best relate?

 I need to be perfect.

I need to be successful.

I need to please others – always.

I need never to get angry.

I need to have someone in my life before I feel I am somebody.

Please write down  how one or more of the above keep you down, despairing and hopeless. Also write your thoughts  about where you feel these attitudes might be coming from?

SOURCE: The  Depressed Anonymous Workbook. Questions 11.1 to 11.6 inclusive.  Page 80-81.

If you are utilizing the HOME STUDY KIT you can read a corresponding  thought in our manual, Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition.  The   DA WORKBOOK  locates this reference in  its format.

 “…   I’ve been good and I’ve tried to be perfect, so why am I so miserable and unhappy ?” The reason that you’re so unhappy is because you’re trying to be perfect, but you never know when you reach perfection as you always have one more line to cross before you become the perfect person that you’re struggling so hard to become. Depression is so often a refuge from having to live out our life. And only when we feel that we can live with a fair degree of unpredictableness  in our life that we move out of  our isolation into the real world. So often our depression hides behind a mask of superficial friendliness – with people never aware of the deep pain that we feel inside.  The risk is in moving out of isolation into contact with other depressed people. We know now that it is in the expression of our feelings that get us free. It is   the telling and the admission of our powerlessness over our depression that makes us move ever so slowly out of the deep pit of darkness and sadness. So often when we are able to make amends, we feel that part of the prison wall begins to crumble and we begin to see the light of day. We discover a way out! We find that our forgiveness of others frees us and brings us one more step into the peace of serenity. Getting free is in saying that we alone are responsible for our compulsive retreat from life when we run up against some stressful situation. And the more we study and hear about the addictive personalities and behavior, the more we learn about ourselves and how we have anaesthetized ourselves against any possible feeling of pain, hurt, or anger by saddening  ourselves and keeping to ourselves.”

SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Pages 85-86.

The HOME STUDY KIT is  a personal study effort (or group) using both the Workbook and the Depressed Anonymous manual. To find out more about the Home Study Kit please VISIT THE STORE.

I have to take responsibility for my own life

The following  excerpt is  about Helen’s  recovery  from depression.  Helen  is   a member of Depressed Anonymous  and her account is one of 31 Personal Stories contained in the Personal  Stories section of Depressed Anonymous.

” You don’t get better overnight but you do get much better. I was as down the muck as far as I could go. I had to go open the door for the first time because there was no other place to go. I had already used up all the hiding places in my life. I still have many problems like anyone else, but when I need sleep very badly, I turn the problem over to the Higher Power and go to sleep. I can always pick life up the next morning. Somehow, it all  gets done. Nothing so bad has happened to me. I’ve troubles trying to figure out what I’m exactly supposed to do. I’m sure God points me in the right direction. Sometimes I miss a message, but it will come to me eventually what God wants for me. All you have to do is reach out and get it. My faith is stronger now on God that has ever been in my life because I need that companion in my life. It is there for all of us if we just reach out and take it.

Now that I look back and see the way I was and see how I am now, I can’t believe that I ever knew that other person. This person is different altogether. I like the person now very much. I’m so thankful to the group. They are just wonderful. They are my family. They are my Depressed Anonymous family. Also I have my church family. It is a wonderful feeling to know there is a Higher Power  that  can help you through these things. At first, I thought: ” I doubt the that very much. ”  when everyone was talking about the Higher Power and peace in my life. Then  it  happened to me.  Every few days, the world dumps down on you and beast you down. That’s just life.  I always think to myself that there is that extra strength that I didn’t have before. I feel that everything is going to be OK with me. I have that peace now myself.

It can’t happen overnight. I know what the people who come to Depressed Anonymous for the first time feel. When you go through the long weeks and days to give it all you’ve got, it will happen to you just as it happened to me. There is no magic your. There is no magic pill. It is a long process. It will happen and does happen. It is so much better than staying in a dark hole and not getting anything out of life. No longer could I blame this one or that one for causing me pain. I know that it was me that was beating myself up.  I was unequipped to handle the problems of my life without the Higher Power, without the tools and material to build a better life which I received from Depressed Anonymous.

I also had to get my priorities straight. But it didn’t happen that way. I just found a different way to go about it. And getting my priorities straight, I discovered that if a person does accept me the way I am, then that doesn’t matter. I’m going to do the best I can. If someone else can’t  handle that, I’m awfully sorry about that, but it has to be. I want everyone to approve of  me, but I’m just not going to do that. I’m not going to please everyone. I have got to take care of myself. I was so busy trying to please everyone else that I wasn’t taking care of my own needs. At the time I was doing it, I didn’t realize that I was doing it. Now I won’t  deliberately hurt anyone else, but I’m going to take care of myself.

Helen

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SOURCES: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition(2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Pages 145-148.

The Depressed Anonymous Workbook (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.

These two works, the HOME STUDY KIT,  is a coordinated  process which utilizes both books to help that person who wants to dig deeper into   areas of depression and will provide   an understanding of what depression is. and how to deal with it on a personal basis.

For more information about the HOME STUDY KIT, please VISIT THE STORE where both books can be ordered online.

 

Hope is just a few steps away!