How soon and how quick can I be free from the pain and isolation of depression?

Recently someone wanted to know “how quick could they be free from the pain and isolation of their depression?” How soon can they get back on the playing field of life? It was like, how can I hurry this mess up in my life, and get going full steam ahead. They wanted to feel the way did before they got knocked down by those feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Well, I guess they thought it would be like going to the doctor and asking how long this flu or cold would last? Normally, that would be a fair-enough question to ask. We all have asked it. We have all asked it because we were sick and tired of being sick and tired. We wanted relief. The jitteriness and hollow feelings which depression was causing was just too much to live with.

But as we all know this question can only be answered with time and the frequent and active participation in the fellowship of the group. It is by reading the texts of the Depressed Anonymous manual and attempting to put these principles into daily effect in one’s life. Also, one can begin to feel some improvement in their lives as they slowly gain a belief, a faith if you will, that they too can get better. If others can do it “I can as well” they tell themselves. Yes, this will be their truth.

With time, patience and sharing they begin to accept themselves for who they are and change what they don’t like in themselves. By the fact that one comes to a meeting is in itself half of the battle in overcoming one’s depression. It is this interminable isolation that keeps the depression at its height and intensity. It is only when a person can admit that their life is out of control and begin to trust the group with their story: a painful journey describing how they got to the point where they are today – isolated, anxious and hurting. Much like a full-body toothache.

The program is a very simple one-but this doesn’t mean that it is easy. All change is painful and if we are to grow we have to change. We have to resolve some of these old issues that keep popping up in our lives. They want our attention but we continue to cram then back in place and don’t want to took at them. But the only way to get free from these feelings of painful despair is to face these feelings, as difficult as they are, and move along with one personal change after another. We start by making choices which benefit our new feelings of hope and serenity.

The first step in getting past our depression is to first get into the door of a Depressed Anonymous meeting. And if you don’t have a Depressed Anonymous meeting in your town then you can find literature at our website (www.depressedanon.com). This will be a great start in gradually chipping away at our fears, our pain and debilitating isolation. There is no quick fix. All good growth is gradual – even with medication it still takes time to tell if the medication is working for you.

In the meantime, check out articles on our website where you will find articles talking about what you are feeling now and with a promise that you too will feel better.

Hugh

SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition(2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.

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When opportunity knocks – open the door!

Yes, that is great advice. When something comes your way,  and you refuse to even consider it–that could be  a BIG mistake. Let me give you an example.

Many years ago, I met a fellow who was very depressed. He felt like there was nothing that he touched that didn’t result in a personal disaster. The more he resisted the opportunities, the greater his frustration grew. He wondered why? Was it because he saw the opportunities as something  other than a possibility for growth and success,  or did he see them as out of reach for him personally.  I didn’t know  what he thought but this I did know, that whatever he thought, he never opened the door! His continued low mood eventually spiraled down so that he closed the door permanently. Suicide became his only option and that sadly was the door  he opened.

Years ago, in my own life, I had the opportunity to open a door that provided me with a  storehouse of possibilities for my life.  I walked through the door and found hope and access to a plan for my life that came with a warranty – a lifetime guarantee for personal  hope and serenity.

That warranty is as good today as it was when I heard that knock more than 30 years ago. Now I am  sharing with others how they will find sobriety  and serenity  if they answer the knock and enter a new world of hope. The  same plan comes with a promise that is being fulfilled in the lives of thousands today, “sometimes quickly-sometimes slowly.”

The door that I am talking about is the door of Depressed Anonymous which when opened provides untold opportunities for peace, hope and a plan. All one has to do is find others like oneself and hear and read how opportunity knocked. They were ready to find out what so many others had discovered for their own lives.

31 people have shared their own personal stories in Depressed Anonymous and have not only  did they “get” the plan for daily living they also got the warranty that promises a depression -free way to live. Will you open that door today?

 

Source: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Ky. (Contains 31 personal stories)

Lack of power, that was our dilemma

The following excerpts are quotations from the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Because our Depressed Anonymous fellowship was modeled on the Alcoholics Anonymous 12 Step spiritual principles for recovery, It is appropriate for us to utilize and put into practice in our daily lives what has been proven to work for those who are part of the 12 Step fellowship recovery programs. Depressed Anonymous is one of those programs.

Lack of power, that was our dilemma (yes-no?). We had to find a power by which we could live, and it had to be a Power greater than ourselves. Obviously. But when and how were we to find this power? Well, that’s exactly what this book (A.A. .45) is about. It’s main object is to enable you to find a Power greater than yourself which will solve your problem.

…deep down in every man, woman and child, is the fundamental idea of God. It may be obscured by calamity, by pomp, by worship of other things, but in some form or other it is there. For faith in a power greater than ourselves, and miraculous demonstration of that power in human lives, are facts as old as man himself. We finally saw that faith in some kind of God was a part of our make-up, just as much a fact as the feeling we have for a friend. Sometimes we had to search fearlessly but He was there. He was as much a fact as we were. We found the great reality deep within us. In the last analysis it is only there that He may be found. It was so with us. We can only clean the ground a bit. If our testimony helps sweep away prejudice, enables you to think honestly, encourage you to search diligently within yourself, then, if you wish, you can join us on the Broad Highway. With this attitude you cannot fail. The consciousness of your belief is sure to come to you (AA.p. 55). Some of us grow into it more slowly. But He has come to all who have honestly sought Hm. When we drew near to Him He disclosed Himself to us.” (AAp.71).

Step 2 Instruction

We needed to ask ourselves but one short question: Do I now believe, or am I even willing to believe that there is a Power greater than myself?” (yes-no?) As soon as a person can say that they do believe, or is willing to believe, we emphatically assure them that they are on their way. It has been repeatedly proven among us this simple cornerstone that a wonderfully effective spiritual structure can be built. (A.A 47)

If you answered yes, congratulations, you have taken step two and we emphatically assure you are now on your way! ”

SOURCE: http://w.w.w.big booksponsorship.org.


“At each Depressed Anonymous meeting we hear different members of the group tell how the Higher Power helped return them to a peace, a serenity that they had never experienced until they started coming to Depressed Anonymous and began working on themselves. Now they can spend time in prayer and meditation with the Higher Power guiding their lives through the times of darkness. In time they have found giving up their depression to the care of the Higher Power almost a pleasure. It is our belief that if we want to begin to live, we must surrender our addiction to depression. The more we are tempted to seek comfort and bash ourselves with thoughts of how bad we are, the more depressed we become. But on the positive side, the more we begin to take mastery over our thinking and our listless behavior, the smaller, gradual gains we will make in seeing some light at the end of the tunnel by living just for today, that is, one day at a time, and not in the hurts and the anger of yesterday or the fear and anxiety of tomorrow, we will begin to see a spark of light coming over the horizon” (D.A.p.41).

SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.KY

There is no “cheap grace” in getting free of our compulsions and addictions

“With any addiction to an experience,  be it alcohol, eating, gambling, smoking, and for us depression, we all know there is no “cheap grace” in getting free of our depression.   Jim discovered, being a newcomer to Depressed Anonymous,  that in time and with frequent attendance at Depressed Anonymous meetings,  the price of freedom from the uneasiness and hollow feelings he felt, was everyday to trust in the Higher Power and turn his sadness over to this God as he understood him.”

SOURCE: The Depressed Anonymous Workbook (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.Ky. Page 18. Step Three.

“The final stage of healing…”

 

“The final stage of healing is using what happens to you to help other people.” Gloria Steinem

 

I certainly endorse that statement. If you have had the life threatening experience of an addiction and couldn’t recover without help then this statement makes a lot of sense to you.

Let’s consider what Dr. Bob S, co-founder of AA has to say, “I spend a great deal of time passing on what I learned to others who want and need it daily. I do it for four reasons:

1 Sense of duty.

2. It is a pleasure.

3. Because in doing so I am paying my debt to the man who took time to pass it on to me.

4. Because every time I do it I take out a little more insurance for my self against  a possible slip.”

Thanks Dr. Bob.

In our program of recovery in Step Twelve this is pretty much what Dr. Bob is talking about and here is what it says:

“Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry  this message to the depressed, and to practice these principles in all of our affairs.”

If there is anything that has been a greater part of my healing from depression it is in telling my story.  I continue to carry the message to anyone who is wiling to listen. Join a Depressed Anonymous group where you live, or if you are alone, then possibly a Home Study avenue might be what you are looking for.

On this coming Saturday I will be honored to be the moderator of a Webinar directed to the Depressed Anonymous groups in Russia and beyond.  For more information please check out this website (depressedanon.com ) for Wednesday the 20th of February and get the details on how to log in.

SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.

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WEBINAR: A Depression Epidemic. Saturday February 23rd, 10AM (Central daylight time)

WEBINAR sponsored by a gathering of  Depressed Anonymous fellowships in Russia will be featuring Hugh S., member of a  USA Depressed Anonymous fellowship..  The program A Depression Epidemic will be in English and translated into Russian for the Russian gathering.  Everyone, from anywhere is welcome to attend!

Please check on the Internet to determine what the 10AM central daylight  time is in their time. zone.

All those interested are welcome to attend the WEBINAR free.

To link to register please use this  link to receive a link to the WEBINAR.

https://goo.gl/forms/IRzUsEGU6FDpzpLu1

For more information about the WEBINAR contact us at depanon@netpenny.net.

 

If we are fooling ourselves, a competent advisor can see this quickly.

How true that “if we are fooling ourselves, a competent advisor (sponsor)  can see this quickly. And, as he skillfully guides us away from our fantasies, we are surprised to find that we have few of the usual urges to defend  ourselves against unpleasant truths. In no other way can fear, pride, and ignorance be so readily melted.  After  a time, we realize that we are standing firm on a brand-new foundation for integrity, and we gratefully credit our sponsors whose advice pointed the way.

— Bill w., in As Bill Sees It. Page 248.

 

So what is the power of Depressed Anonymous?

 

What is the power of Depressed Anonymous? Well, first let me say that when I started attending  Depressed Anonymous meetings, I went for a couple of months and then stopped. I stopped going because my depression was so bad that I didn’t want to leave my apartment. I didn’t want to be around to talk to anyone. I just didn’t want to do anything except crawl in a hole somewhere and isolate myself from everything. Then after about six weeks of isolation, I called the residential treatment facility where I had been a client to see if I had received any mail there and one of the members of the Depressed Anonymous group where I attend answered my phone. I spent a few minutes talking to her and there was something in her voice that told me that for some reason, it was important for me to be at the meeting. I attended the next Depressed Anonymous meeting. After the meeting was over, I suddenly realized the importance and power of Depressed Anonymous.

So what is the power of Depressed Anonymous? For me, it’s just like attending the first meeting. I was a little scared and apprehensive at first, but then I found that the Depressed Anonymous meeting was a place to go where there were other depressed persons just like. They could relate to and understand what I was going through. They didn’t judge me or think of me as crazy. I was accepted.”

A member of Depressed Anonymous tells his story in the Personal Stories section of Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Ky. Page 133.

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The International Depressed Anonymous Online SKYPE Meeting

NOTICE: Whenever a blog post mentions an online meeting be sure to consult the page Online Depressed Anonymous Meetings for the most up to date and correct information. If the blog post is more than a few days old there is a chance it could be incorrect.

Please  take notice that the International Depressed Anonymous Online SKYPE meeting  is now open for group members.  Newcomers are especially welcome.

The way to attend this meeting, which is online every Sunday at 14.30 CET (Central European Time). People can check on the Internet what the time  would be for their own time zone.  The meeting uses the same format as at a regular Depressed Anonymous meeting. The meeting is in English.

Here is  the address that will take you immediately to the DA meeting.

 https://join.skype.com/l8Xf0uW4hYUW

From victim of depression to survivor to a life with hope. This is my story.

I remember well how a person’s personal narrative  describes their experiences with depression.  I hear it almost daily; read about it almost daily; and respond to it almost daily. As a victim, survivor of depression,  I have gradually morphed into a communicator of hope for the depressed,  family members and friends.   Because  they believe in heir own  narrative of hoplessness and helplessness and all the while  discounting  the fact  that things will ever be alright.   I can tell people all day long that it is “gonna be alright”  and the response usually  is,”great, but when?” Let me tell my story.

Since 1985, as a person depressed myself, and using tools that I learned along the way  to becoming   a survivor,  I gradually learned of a plan. It was a simple plan. It was based on 12 simple spiritual principles.  By spiritual, I  mean   simple spiritual principles,  that there is a God that loves me. I call this my Higher Power,  that deep inner  loving force which gives us the power to respond, especially in our deep personal crises,  giving us  strength, making it possible to use our mind and heart to trust in its power.   Our trust and our own surrender to its will for us,  that divine guide, will lead us out of the darkness.  After a time, I was more and more intent on listening to  the voice in my head that said, “you are going to make it!” Not the voice that said, I was hopeless and worthless.

I have dedicated much of my life,  always with  hope  that you and I and all the depressed,  can survive the isolation, self-hatred and helplessness  that we have built   and creating  the  prison of depression  which afforded us no escape. We really believed that we had been served a lifetime sentence of being in an emotional and mental lockdown .  Gradually , our own thinking and deepening moods of hopelessness and helplessness  became life threatening.

Once free of the depression shackles I began to share with the depressed my plan! Actually, I had nothing to do with formulating this plan of recovery and survival.

The  plan was developed by two guys, one a stockbroker and the other an MD. Both came from being victims of alcoholism to being survivors. They lived out their recovery  plan  by sharing the route, their own experiences with each other and those others who were gathering around the message of hope  and that  power that led them.   This plan is spelled out in  what is now called the 12 Steps  of Alcoholics Anonymous.  Their plan worked for the alcoholic in the late 1930’s and it continues to work its power in the 21st century.

We have applied the Steps  and have found the  plan works equally well for the depressed. As we well  know, many, have faced life with despair and  without hope–they had no plan. For some, suicide was the only way out of this endless agony.

So, let’s consider what each one of us can do.   Look at what each of us can do who are depressed or who have been depressed.  For myself, I have shared   my story of being  victim, a survivor. As a victim, I had no knowledge of what was wrong with me, no way of knowing what to do to get out of the mental mess I was in and so I did only what I knew–to run away from it. Like Forrest Gump, I began to walk, and walk some more, every day,  each day. Finally my mind cleared, and I sought help. I knew that since the Steps worked for the hopeless alcoholic they had to work for someone  like me,  who was  filled with shame and guilt and despair. This is when I found that working the Steps, one after another would produce not only sobriety but an enduring  hope, one day at a time. And the way to get this hope and to strengthen its power in our lives  was to gather others around us who feel the same as I did.  We were no longer alone in our struggle. Others spoke the same language as did  myself. They got it!

I have spent  the last three  decades of my life, sharing   my story, attempting to  to give hope to those still suffering. That is my mission. I believe that is why God provided Bill W., and Dr. Bob with that spiritual  awakening,  lighting  up their own path in recovery.   They made it possible for all of us who wanted this light, this plan, and then to take this light and help others find what we have found.

I follow a roadmap-a plan developed by two guys who saw no way out except by helping other men and women who were looking for someone to give them hope and a path out of their addiction to alcohol.  They both knew, as do we  in the program, that to live out the plan in our daily lives it is essential that we carry our message of hope to others. That is the message of the plan. Give it away. Don’t put your treasure under a basket. Let the light shine. I really think that Bill W., and Dr. Bob were the two angels god sent to give all of us, those of their own time, for us today and for the future, a reason to stay alive. They had a simple plan. They each told their story to the alcoholic of how life was before and then how life was being lived  now-with sobriety and hope.  They shared how their life was before their recovery and then shared how their life was  now.  They didn’t preach. They had their story. And they told hurting  men and women that they could be free.

I too have my story, I have a message of hope, and like the 12 Steps of AA, on which Depressed Anonymous is modeled, it is slowly beginning  to reach  people who  can now hope.   Depression is in epidemic  proportions  effecting every nationality and region of the earth. Later this month a Depressed Anonymous group from Russia is sponsoring a Webinar  about depression and mutual support.

I have  a story to tell. A story that  provides  hope and a way to live, every day of our lives. And this is my story.

This is my passion. With gratitude!

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Thank you for reading this story of hope and healing. Please share with that person who needs hope–included with  a plan that works!

Hugh

 

Hope is just a few steps away!